The rating and dating complex
It’s true in investing, as well as dating, getting a new job, moving to a different place and a host of changes we make to (hopefully) improve our lives.
Reply I’m sure statistically this is right, but I had a different experience.
There are guys who will do that no problem but I’m not one of them. I also “judge” if I’m interested based on what they write in their profile, and how they correspond with me, meaning if a guy writes, “ur cute, we should meet 2day” or something of that nature, good riddance.
Reply I’ve never used a dating website,but I know plenty of people that do, and they all say that if the person doesn’t have a photo attached to their profile, they don’t even bother looking any further. The truth is both are getting hosed in some way or another, but that’s true in real life too.
Look at this example from Dan Ariely’s book Predictably Irrational: option, and ZERO chose the second option.
Reply Interesting thought but there’s more to it, I suspect. In everything, you have to take a chance, because we all have imperfect information to start off with.
Like in the Economist print example, a guy posting his income without a picture isn’t going to cut it. The key is trying to keep it short and learn as much as you can as quickly as you can.
I never used match but on another site you can see if the guy lives alone, has roommates, owns a car or a bike, and keep narrowing your income bracket, unless he just racked up debt for the past 10 years. I got a text message lecture later about how I should have paid because it “makes her feel like a lady.” Give me a break, every time a woman manipulates a guy (particularly one she barely knows) into buying her something in exchange for her time/affection, it sets women’s equality back just a little further.
Don’t tell me to respect you as a capable equal, and then demand that I help you financially before we’ve even exchanged five sentences in person. Thanks for telling all guys to not put their income up!
Guys don’t have this disadvantage because nearly all girls put pictures up! Dating sites should require that guys say how much money they make so girls a can make relative comparisons just like guys do with our pictures.